S1 E2 - The Purple Hammer Incident

"Gary's Self-Fulfilled Prophecy"
In this explosive episode, Amy recounts the events of April 13-14, 2023 - what she calls "The Purple Hammer Incident." Starting with a marriage conference they were supposed to attend, the story unfolds through three days of text bombardment, escalating conflict, and ultimately Amy breaking into her own home with a purple hammer to retrieve her belongings. Through actual texts, audio recordings, and security footage, this episode exposes the exhausting reality of narcissistic abuse cycles, gaslighting in real-time, and the lengths abusers go to maintain control. The episode ends on a note of solidarity and healing, with Amy's support network at Transcend throwing her a "Fuck Gary" party complete with a dartboard.

Suggested Resources for Narcissistic Abuse Awareness and Recovery  

Guidance & Education from Therapists and Mental Health Professionals
● Dr. Ramani https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani 
● Surviving Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@SurvivingNarcissism
● Prof. Sam Vaknin https://www.youtube.com/@samvaknin

Narcissistic Abuse Educators and Recovery Coaches
● Synful_ https://www.youtube.com/@ResilientAF 
● Love and Abuse https://www.youtube.com/@LoveandAbuse 
● Understanding Narcissim https://www.youtube.com/@Understandingnarcissism 
● The Virtual Couch https://www.youtube.com/@TheVirtualCouchPodcast 
● Claire Auden https://www.youtube.com/@claireauden

Content from “Self Aware Narcissists”
● Mental Healness https://www.youtube.com/@MentalHealness
● Raw Motivations https://www.youtube.com/@RawMotivations
● The Bat Wolf https://www.youtube.com/@The_Bat_Wolf

Other Helpful Content Creators
● Jefferson Fisher https://www.youtube.com/@jeffersonfisher 
● Jimmy on Relationships https://www.youtube.com/@JimmyonRelationships 
● Therapy Jeff https://www.youtube.com/@TherapyJeff 
● Beyond Bitchy Podcast
● Lisa Bilyeu https://www.youtube.com/@LisaBilyeu 
● Conflictish https://www.youtube.com/@conflict-ish 
● Mel Robbins https://www.youtube.com/@melrobbins 

Self-Help Resources
● The Gottman Institute https://www.youtube.com/@TheGottmanInstitute 
● CPTSD Foundation https://cptsdfoundation.org/ 
● Lethality Assessment Questions for First Responders https://shamelesssurvivors.com/lethality-assessment-screen/ 

Amy’s Spotify Playlist “Narcissistic Abuse”
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4HMgAmeH3u1NjgKNdQxKo3?pi=EyN_jRs6R7ChK
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